I didn't choose this life, I chose my husband.

    This morning, I got the privilege of going to Aulani Disney Resort in Kapolei to the Disney breakfast there.  It was pretty cool.  I went with two of my students and their moms (they are also friends).  While this boys were playing I was talking with the girls (one of which is active duty Navy) about how I don't believe there should even be a military spouse appreciation day.  Let's be for real, what we do is hard and no, not all of us chose this lifestyle, we chose our spouse.  It is hard to learn 48 hours in advance that your husband is going to be going to war for 8 months.  It is hard to have to do everything by your self.  It is hard to be alone.  It is hard to up and move after only a couple of months of living somewhere just because the military needs you somewhere else.  It is hard missing holidays, birthdays, and special moments with family and friends.  But do you know what would be harder?  It would be so much harder to not know the love that I know.  It would be so much harder to not be a wife to my best friend.

    Don't get me wrong...being a military spouse isn't easy, nor is it for everyone, but do I think we need a special day to honor it....heck no!  Calm your tits ladies.  Doctor's spouse's don't get a day dedicated to them and their spouses also work insane hours and are often on call a majority of the time.  What really set me off about this "Military Appreciation Day" was the fact that some of the spouses thought that they deserved a discount, or medal or something.  Like be for real, yes I get lonely when Adam is gone but at least I don't have to work 72 hours straight, and I get to sleep in my own bed as well as eat whatever type of food my little heart desires.  What my husband and all of his fellow bothers and sisters in arms should be getting the praise and honor.  Not "us".  I don't do the hard work, my husband does.  Oh and by the way, military spouses are CIVILIANS NOT ENLISTED.  They are not in the military, they are dependents of a person that is.
 

(This is so dumb!)

    All in all, I am a military wife.  Yes, I keep down the home front while my husband and the rest of the U.S. military are fighting for our freedom...what little freedom we do have left.  However, my "job" is relatively easy compared to theirs.  So don't recognize me, recognize the men and women that put their lives on hold for you and the children that don't get to have their daddy or mommy home for the holidays, or birthdays.  Most of all, recognize that someone was so selfless and laid their life down, or missed very important things and put their life on hold so that you can enjoy what you love.

    -On a side note, if you ever hear a spouse of a person that is in the military complaining, or upset because they miss their spouse please do not ever look at them and say, "Well you chose this life.".  First of all, unless the person is a tag chaser (someone that seeks military people out so that they can reap the benefits) we chose our spouse, not their occupation.